I grew up as an only child. It’s always bad news for me whenever I hear the words “It’s time to go home.” Regardless if I’m the one going back to my house or it’s my play mates going back to theirs, In both cases, it means going back to solitary confinement. Because of that, I got used to being alone. I guess this created an impact on how I am today — I am ok when alone but given the chance, I love crowds and I am a very social person.
The quest to being more loving
One time, I found out in the office that everybody went to Baler for an outing. No one even invited us out of courtesy. I felt really bad. When I told them, they said they didn’t want us to go because it was just a house and we would ’t like it. I began to reflect, do I project that type of person?
Then I discovered that this isn’t really an uncommon thing, when I joined the pastors of Christ Commission Fellowship (CCF) on a trip to Chicago for a church conference, everyone didn’t act the same when our senior pastor was around. It was a relief to know that I’m not alone, and that even holy people like Pastor Peter experience the same thing. However, I still began my search on how I can relate to people better so that I can be onboard with them as a good friend.
This year, one of my few prayers is that God would make me a more loving person. I want to be more gentle and more compassionate — so I began my research and I am just shocked at one of the things I discovered. Being loving isn’t just something thats part of our character or emotion, there is some science to it literally. Our bodies actually produce a hormone that determines whether we are in a loving mood or not and its called Oxytocin. This is the hormone released when a mother bonds with her child. And it just doesn’t make you more loving, more of this hormone actually boosts up your immune system. You can buy Oxytocin nasal drops and it doesn’t come cheap but I also found 10 cheaper ways you can do to increase it and sincerely show people how I truly care about them.
1. Be a Hugger.
2. When you shake hands – put one hand over the other (a 2nd hand shake).
3. Watch movies that make you cry.
4. Sing with other people at a Karaoke.
6. Engage and do something exciting with the people that need more loving.
7. Exercise with a friend.
8. Treat someone to dinner.
9. Say out loud how much you lovingly appreciate them.
10. Engage in social media.
Easy? whether this finding is true or not, I guess doing the things above will make me at least seem like a more loving person.
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