June Bride: Spending time with your wife

Since its June, lets talk about June brides. Surprise surprise tho… we don’t really have June brides here.  In other countries, many people get married in June for different reasons like its the start of the summer season, its when flowers bloom and in some, its supposed to be a lucky date.  However, in the Philippines, our peak is December because its not so hot and its a time when family members usually go home to spend Christmas season with loved ones.  Anyway, to kick it off, I’d like to share a verse:


“When a man takes a new wife, he shall not go out with the army nor be charged with any duty; he shall be free at home one year and shall give happiness to his wife whom he has taken. (‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭24‬:‭5‬ NASB)

At this day and age, you’d probably regard this as passe or you’d say its not applicable to today’s time.  There’s a big Chance too that after reading this blog you’d say it makes sense but you still wont act on it anyway.
There is probably a good reason why God placed this verse in the bible.
I’m a self confessed shopper. I have so much brand new stuff in my stockroom that at one point in time, during the time it was on the screen of my computer, I said “I need it, gotta have it, this is just what I’m looking for, this is gonna make my life so much easier” and so after buying it 3 years later guess what — its still in the box untouched.  Sometimes when i open it, that’s the only time i find out, it doesn’t work as its supposed to or something is wrong with it and its now too late to send it back for a refund or even for an exchange.
OK, as much as i don’t want to compare wives to an item i just bought, unfortunately the verse I quoted above was written under “laws for divorse” and you think about it, what does spending time with your new wive have to do with divorce?  So this is my take on the matter:
1. There is a wife you don’t know. Regardless of whether you’ve been together for year or dating for a decade.
2. There is an adjusting period.  Being together with someone changes you. Seeing each other every day is still not the same as living together.
3. the first year is the wife’s year.  As you see here it says “give happiness to your wife who you’ve taken.”
So if you’re newly married give time for adjustment. Don’t get busy right away. Enjoy each other during this honeymoon period.
Cars have period check ups and so do you.  Sometimes life gets so busy that we tend to forget that its been months since we last took out our wives on a date (mine must have been a year!) and a decade since you last took her out on a vacation.  Did you know that many husbands to housewives think that since the wife is just home they are just resting? And many of them think that since they are just home
1. Have a Family planning every year or at least every 2 years where you get to establish long term and short term goals.  Also ask your kids what their goals or ambitions are.
2. For me you should have at least one a year time off to spend time together far away, doesn’t have to be out of the country, just be away from work and that includes kids.
3. Its not only on the first year we need this. Make it your focus as long as you live.
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